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Deleting Social Media and Achieving Total Zen

Deleting Social Media and Achieving Total Zen

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

It's really unheard of today. Everyone and their grandmother has some form of social media account. For some jobs, it's a requirement. For some social circles, it's essential. But it's a known fact that social media harbour huge, negative effects that are detrimental to our health.

That's the balance of life; with all good, there are some bad. Sometimes, that balance can tip either way just a little too far and it can throw our entire worlds out of whack. But knowing when too much of a good thing becomes bad is something we are getting increasingly foggy with. That's what happened to me. 

I used all popular social media accounts; Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. But my relationship with them soon became toxic and despite my friends' pleas, I deleted my accounts. 

Okay, okay. This is coming off a little hardcore here. Instead, I will talk you through each of my decisions.

SNAPCHAT

This was what sparked it all, really. I had this religious routine of checking my Snaps, keeping up to date with celebrities, YouTubers and news articles at any interval. But I noticed I would get worked up furiously refreshing my feed when I was bored. I even began following YouTubers and celebrities I didn't like just so I could get my scandal fix. 

Snapchat is already a huge place for bragging. People sharing snippets of their days - but only ever the highlights. It's hard not to feel envious when you see someone's snap of a new car or nice holiday. 

It is also a cruel and toxic hive for so-called friends to "spill the tea" or "throw shade", especially in the beauty community online. Every day there was a new drama or fight or scandal and I could witness it first hand from each involved parties accounts. I was sucked in, hating on the lives of people I didn't even know, assuming I have an opinion when really, I don't. 

I actually deleted my entire Snapchat account as well as removing the app. No longer will I see this cesspool of negativity on my phone again.

TWITTER

When you're running a website, Twitter is an excellent resource. You can talk to other like-minded people using "Twitter chats"  about specific topics. My Twitter is typically filled with a similar group of people as my Snapchat but with the added exception of bloggers. 

Twitter is a funny one. I see a lot of people using screenshots and retweets to "catch out" people and hold them accountable for the stupid shit they posted on a whim. I also see a lot of people demanding and claiming entitlement from brands who wrong-done them for the silliest, minuscule thing. It was also highly addictive; stuck scrolling for hours when you only came to check an update. I couldn't cope with the backstabbing, drama, entitlement or politics every time I opened the app so I got rid of it. 

I still have my Twitter account and I'm still active on there. You'll find me chatting away to other accounts, making brand deals and sharing content updates. What I did to "cleanse my soul" was I simply deleted the app from my phone and I only access it through my PC. 

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FACEBOOK

Facebook is more of a personal one for me. As a business, the site is useless. You receive very little interaction from "followers" unless you pay for it. It prioritises accounts who pay the most for exposure. It's very frustrating. 

But on a personal level, I only use Facebook as a way of connecting with family and sincere, distant friends. When I went to university, old school friends would kick up all this drama by unfriending you and starting something about. Furthermore, I hate how your account can be held against you. On one occasion, a Superior had my Facebook page printed off and highlighted demanding I explain aspects of my online life such as employment, particular friendships, events I "joined" and living arrangements. It was very invasive. I was very angry about such an intrusion. 

So, I keep my Facebook pretty vague. I'm actually not a huge poster on Facebook. I did remove the app from my phone because I would get so sucked into dumb videos of cats and how to upcycle a plastic bottle or whatever. As much I love my friends and family and I support their successes and advancements, you can't help but feel a twinge of jealousy from time to time. I decided to remove that negative opportunity from my view and I will only react when I'm in a good frame of mind.

Photo by Rachael Crowe on Unsplash

Photo by Rachael Crowe on Unsplash

INSTAGRAM

Okay, this one is a tough one. You can only post to Instagram from a device so I can't exactly just delete the app. But I don't want to get rid of my Instagram altogether because I enjoy posting there

For a lot of people, it's a source of pain because it's a constant comparison between the life they have and the life they want. And what is worse is more often than not, that life you want isn't even real or true to that person behind the account.

For me, I get stuck in that explore page for forever. Like, it is so bad and it isn't even remotely interesting! It makes me so anti social because I get so sucked into it. I talked about that recently, actually. I know people who as bad (or worse) as me. So I haven't figured out what I'm going to do about that one yet. I'll keep you posted.


Social Media is definitely a funny one, alright. If you're in the same boat as me and struggling to cope with the attached negativity I would certainly recommend taking a break from it all. I also have the notifications turned off on all accounts such as emails and Instagram. This is wonderful! It means I won't see that horrible email until I am ready to deal with it. 

Do you have a love/hate relationship with social media?

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